OnlyFans Message Templates: 50 DM Openers and Replies

Scripts are a starting point, not a personality. Fans can smell a paste job, and nothing kills spending faster than realising the message everyone got is the message they got.

So use this list the right way: steal the structure, rewrite every line in your own voice, and never send one of these word for word twice. (If rewriting on the fly is the bottleneck, that is exactly the job an AI assistant that knows your persona does for you: same intent, fresh words, your voice, every time.)

Everything in square brackets is a placeholder. Fill it or cut it.

Which template for which moment

Ground rules that make every template work harder

1. Use his name or handle once per conversation minimum. Bought attention is generic; yours should not be.
2. Reference something real: his last message, his tip, how long he has subscribed. Specificity is the whole game.
3. One message, one job. Welcome, or tease, or pitch. Stacking all three reads desperate.
4. End with an easy question whenever you want a reply. Fans answer questions; they ignore announcements.
5. Know your next offer before you open the thread. A charming chat with nowhere to go is a wasted touch.

Welcome messages for new subscribers (1 to 8)

First impressions convert. These eight are quick starters; for the two-message structure, examples by page type and what to send in the first 48 hours, see our welcome message guide.

1. "well hello [name] 😏 you picked a good week to find me... what caught your eye?"
2. "new face!! I like it 🖤 tell me one thing you're hoping to see here and I'll tell you if you guessed right"
3. "hi trouble. yes you. I checked your profile the second you subbed... should I be worried or excited?"
4. "welcome in [name] 🥂 the feed is the trailer, the DMs are the movie. what brought you my way?"
5. "you subscribed at [time]?? night owl or bad influence? either way, hi 😇"
6. "ok important first question and your whole experience here depends on it: coffee or cocktails?"
7. "hey you 💌 I actually read my DMs, all of them, so don't be a stranger. what do I call you?"
8. "you're here! took you long enough 😌 I'm [persona name]. house rules: be sweet, be curious, and never be shy."

Re-engagement openers for quiet fans (9 to 15)

9. "you went quiet on me [name]... blink twice if you're okay 👀"
10. "I was just thinking about you. dangerous, I know. what have you been up to?"
11. "so I posted something today and my first thought was 'he is going to lose it'. did you see it yet?"
12. "confession: I notice when my favourites go missing. you're on the list. where'd you go?"
13. "it's been [x] days. I counted. that's either very rude or very forgivable, depending on your excuse 😏"
14. "quick temperature check: busy week, or am I not being interesting enough? be honest, I can take it"
15. "someone told me absence makes the heart grow fonder. proving it or disproving it, [name]?"

Thank-yous that open doors (tips and purchases) (16 to 21)

16. "you SPOIL me 🥺 seriously, thank you. come here, you've earned some extra attention..."
17. "a tip AND good taste? [name] you're becoming a problem for my composure"
18. "thank you baby 🖤 I want to do something just for you now. what's your weakness?"
19. "you didn't have to do that... which is exactly why it worked on me 😌"
20. "unlocked already?? tell me your favourite second of it. I need details"
21. "the way you take care of me... noted, remembered, and about to be rewarded 💋"

PPV pitches that do not feel like pitches (22 to 28)

22. "I filmed something yesterday and honestly I've been debating whether it's too much... want me to send it before I change my mind? 🙈"
23. "you know that thing you asked about last week? I made it. I thought about you the whole time. [price] and it's in your inbox"
24. "current mood: [mood emoji]. I captured it properly for the ones who ask nicely. are you asking nicely?"
25. "I only sent this to a few people because it's... a lot. you struck me as someone who could handle it 😏"
26. "rate my idea: you unlock this, and then you tell me exactly what you'd want in part two. deal?"
27. "it's [x] minutes long. that's all I'm saying. the rest you have to see for yourself 🔥"
28. "be honest [name], have I ever oversold anything to you? exactly. trust me on this one"

Custom content upsells (29 to 34)

The long game on customs is in our custom content selling guide.

29. "you keep mentioning [thing]... you know I take customs, right? tell me the daydream and I'll tell you what it costs"
30. "I have exactly two custom slots this month and one just went. want me to hold the other one for you?"
31. "the way you described that... you clearly have a director's eye 🎬 want to actually direct one?"
32. "customs start at [price], and yes, saying my name, your name, or that thing you like all count as customisation 😌"
33. "I loved making the last one for you. round two? I have ideas this time..."
34. "so here's what a custom with me looks like: you tell me the fantasy, I make it real, nobody else ever sees it. tempted?"

Sexting session openers (35 to 40)

35. "I have the house to myself tonight and zero plans... change that? my sessions are [price] for [duration] 🔥"
36. "warning: I'm in a mood today. the good kind. the kind you'd want in your DMs for half an hour..."
37. "tell me your evening plans. wrong answers only. correct answer: me, obviously"
38. "I keep [x] slots open on [day] nights for my favourites. you qualify. interested?"
39. "no photos, no scripts, just me, actually typing to you, undivided. that's the session. when are you free?"
40. "you always say the perfect thing right when I have to leave... book the time and I won't have to 😏"

Boundaries and graceful declines (41 to 45)

Saying no well keeps the fan and the money. Your persona's hard lines live in your profile settings; these keep the tone warm while the line stays firm. More on this in our persona and tone of voice guide.

41. "you're sweet, but that one's not on my menu, and I like you too much to fake it. here's what I will do though..."
42. "ha! bold. respect. but no 😌 pick again, the rest of the menu is very much open"
43. "that's a hard no from me babe, no hard feelings. now, about that other idea of yours..."
44. "I keep some things just for me. mystery is part of the product 😏 what else are you curious about?"
45. "not that, but you're warm. want a hint about what I would say yes to?"

Win-backs for expired subscribers (46 to 50)

46. "so your sub lapsed and I'm choosing to believe it was an accident 💔 fix it and I'll pretend it never happened"
47. "I made [new thing] since you left. genuinely some of my best work. your timing was terrible, come back"
48. "resubs get a warm welcome and I remember everything we talked about, [name]. just saying"
49. "the door's open, the discount's attached, and I'm not above bribery 😌 [offer]"
50. "missing: one of my favourite people. last seen [x] weeks ago. reward if returned: me, pleased to see you"

Worked example: one template, made yours

Here is template 11 as written:

"so I posted something today and my first thought was 'he is going to lose it'. did you see it yet?"

Now the same template adapted by three different creators, for one specific fan, Jake, who told her last week he loves her in red:

• Soft, girlfriend-style page: "jake. I wore the red one today and genuinely thought of you 🙈 did you see it yet?"
• Bratty page: "posted the red set. you're welcome. go look and come back and tell me I'm right"
• Faceless feet page: "red polish, new set, your exact weakness. you've seen it already, haven't you 😏"

What changed: his name, the detail he gave her, her own emoji and punctuation, and the length. What stayed: the structure, a reason to look and a question to answer. That is the whole method for every template on this page. If you have not pinned down your own voice yet, our persona and tone of voice guide has a worksheet for it.

How to actually use these

Do a pass through the list and delete every line that does not sound like you. Rewrite the survivors in your own words: your emoji, your pet names, your punctuation. That edited list is now a real asset, what a good chatter would call a script book, except it costs you nothing and nobody needed your password to use it.

Then treat every send as a draft, not a broadcast. Adjust for the fan, the moment and the last thing he said. Personal is the product. Templates are just how you stop paying the typing tax on it.

Frequently asked questions

What should I say to start a conversation on OnlyFans? Something short that references what he just did and ends with an easy question. Questions get replies; links and announcements get ignored.

Is it OK to use message templates on OnlyFans? Yes, as a starting point. Rewrite them in your own voice and adapt each one to the fan. Sending identical lines to everyone reads as a script, and repetitive mass messaging can run into OnlyFans' rules on spam.

How do I re-engage a quiet fan? One playful, low-pressure message that references something real, then leave it for a week or two if he stays quiet.

How do I pitch a PPV without sounding salesy? Pitch inside a warm conversation, tie it to something he said, sell the moment rather than the specs, and state the price once, confidently. Our PPV pricing guide covers what to charge.

How do I say no to a request politely? Keep it warm and short, make the no clear, and offer something you do sell instead.

Where Naughtii fits

That, incidentally, is the entire design of Naughtii's DM Assistant: it reads the real conversation and drafts three replies in your persona, so every message gets the template treatment without ever being a template. You just pick, tweak and send.